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I’m not sure when I first started watching “My Fair Wedding with David Tutera” but I kind of enjoy watching his show. Sometimes he is so absolutely out of his element when dealing with some of his brides that he can’t even hide is disbelief and shock. Surprise an excitable bride to be and WHOA! David totally was not ready for that jumping hug screech and he looks like he’s scared but trying not to look scared. And that cracks my butt up.
You can tell that he really cares about giving each bride a wonderful wedding, that he takes the time to choose elements that they will like [he almost always ends up picking the choice the bride likes the most anyway] and would do justice to the themes that they have created themselves. I like how he doesn’t really change the overall theme but merely adds his professional touch to polish things and really pull the look together; from sophomoric to sophisticated. Actually, my favorite part is the beginning of the show when they sit down and do the big reveal of the current wedding plans and David tries not to vomit all over the place because he’s deathly allergic to the tacky.
As much as I enjoy seeing the big reveal at the end of the show, I do have a few misgivings with David. Firstly, where is the groom?! I find myself worried about the groom’s absence during the taping. David briefly meets with the groom at the welcome before ushering him out the door and then there’s nary a reference to him until the wedding day. This really bothers me because my personal response is that I want the mister to be just as involved in the wedding details as I am, even if it’s just to get a yea or nay from him. I don’t want to banish him to some holding cell until it’s time to get married and have him brought from his crate.
This ideology was really apparent in the “Diva Bride” episode. The original theme was, arguably confusing: Lady Gaga, Beyonce and Mardi Gras [um, yeah].
But the end was something completely different. It morphed into a display of “me, me, me.” All I saw were pictures of the bride and her bridesmaids all over the venue and nothing that really said much to the couple’s relationship and marriage. While it was a beautiful wedding, it felt very hollow to me.
Second, David is a champion of the “WIC” and so sometimes outside the box ideas that sound perfectly fine does not compute in his mind. I was sad that he was so against Nicki’s desire to wear her cowboy boots with her dress. I thought it looked fine and have seen plenty of brides sporting cowboy boots with their wedding dresses, the beautiful Mrs. Cherry Pie for instance. Yet David recoiled at the mention and you could tell it was painful for him to let her wear them in the end.
I don’t know, but a lot of his weddings look similar to me as well. Granted, he definitely has an aesthetic, which makes sense because that is why you hire a David Tutera [or a Colin Cowie for that matter] but sometimes I feel like I lose the sense of the couple in the final result. The original idea is stretched and preened and revised so much that it’s hard to pick out the original soul of the couple within the elaborate designs and displays.
Having David resculpt my wedding is an intriguing proposition but I don’t really want to know how he would inevitably improve upon my ideas. I don’t want to dismiss the mister from the wedding planning. I want it to be a joint effort, even though he’ll probably just say, “whatever you want.” Can you tell I just rolled my eyes there? Because I did. That reply is so not going to fly. I don’t want the wedding to be about me, but us.
I want to put the “we” in “wedding.” Sorry, I couldn’t resist.
Have you watched “My Fair Wedding with David Tutera”? What did you think? Would you want David to refine your wedding planning?